Every attachment , be it a relationship, a material object, a position is accompanied by fear. What happens when we evoke fear? We set into motion the physiology of stress.
We need to learn to let go. Letting go does not mean ending a relationship nor does it mean not enjoying the material things you have in life. It just means to always be aware that you don’t attach yourself to them. When you live in a state of detachment, you learn to live without any fear. Living in this state always keeps you in a state of balance because you start to focus on the fact that true happiness lies only within you. We have learnt to place the responsibility of keeping us happy on external relations and material possessions. When we do that, we are always afraid that if things change on the outside life will become difficult.
What happens in a relationship where we attach ourselves too much? there is the fear of losing the relationship. When that fear sets in, we begin to try and control the lives of the people involved in that relationship, thinking that by doing so we can ensure that we don’t lose them. But what happens in reality is that, we are only doing the exact opposite of that. Suffocating others in our relationships only out of fear of losing them, takes them even farther away from us.
It takes time to feel comfortable spending time by yourself in moments of silence. Gradually the more you do that and the more you enjoy being with yourself and create a beautiful relationship with yourself, the more better will be your relationships in the outer world.
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