When you look in the mirror, whose voices do you hear?

 

When you look in the mirror, whose voices do you hear?

When we look at ourselves in the mirror, we hear different voices in our head. “you are not pretty”, “ You have a weird nose”, “Your eyes are too small or big”, “you need to lose weight”, “You are not intelligent enough”

Where are these voices coming from? Are these words you tell yourself or are these the words from the past that are always on “play” in your head?

As we are growing up, our subconscious mind records and stores the words and the emotions attached to those words about ourselves and we begin to believe those to be true about ourselves. We may have gone on to become adults but the inner child within us still feels the pain from hearing those harsh words and is still walking around wounded from those unhealed emotions. These emotions and beliefs about ourselves, when triggered, come up to the surface.

We can start to put on a mask of feeling good about ourselves but until and unless the wounds on the inner child are not acknowledged and healed, time and again, the wounds will surface up and stop us from moving forward in our lives, in the form of unhealthy relationships with ourselves and the people around us.

There are various healing modalities that can be used to work with the inner child to become more conscious about ourselves so that we can be more conscious about our parenting.

Loving your inner child

My inner child knows how perfect she is. I hold this child close to my heart and tell her how much I love her- Louise Hay

 

Many of us, some more than others, have heard things unpleasant about ourselves in our growing up years that have become a part of us now. It’s almost like a footprint that has stayed on for life.

We walk around in life believing that the things we have heard about ourselves were true and that the way we had been treated was how we deserved to be treated and thus we go on to allowing people to continue treating us like that. No one deserves to feel unloved, or not worthy of love. That inner child within all of us needs to know that no ones else’s opinion counts, that no matter what..  you will always love her.

The most important reason to love the inner child is so that we can heal that little child to make us better parents because otherwise we will walk around wounded and will continue to live a life where we numb out on certain emotions and will never heal them.